Tuesday, 12 July 2016

As it happened in a song

Brenda, I don’t know if there are people like me, but when I like a song, it will be on repeat on my play list until I find another to take it off or something else takes my attention. I can be that obsessive about some songs. I am telling you about this obsession because I recently stumbled upon a song I had forgotten about, this particular song used to be “One” of those songs I just referred to above.
The song is “Treatment by Labrinth” Here are a few lines but you can go to you tube and hear it all out:
You had a heart but then you put a hole in mine
Listen I wanna break down
You don't understand the damage you've done now
Let me remind you that I had a heart and
You came inside
Turned the whole place upside

Now I'm out of my mind
Rocking chair, mental asylum
Everyone dressed in white
I really think I've lost it this time”.
The lyrics illustrate what I am just about to get into.  A few years ago when this song was my jam, for no apparent reason as you can judge it’s not really your go to happy song. It’s not like I was going through something that made drawn to the song, oh wait now I know. It was symbolic in a sense that it told my story even before it happened. There must be a literature term to mean this but I will get back to the English laters.
Around this time, I met a boy and things happened so fast I could barely keep track of my own mind. All I got into this boy and l was over the moon about it, damn I even envisioned us walking down the aisle. Seems funny now but yeah, It was surreal at the time.  Enter the song- you know when you are crazed about something; you want everyone around you into it. One of those evenings, I played him the song, and yeah he did listen. I recall joking about it, telling him not to ever turn me into that person in the song. Read mental case. Anhaa. It was a truth but just hidden under a joke.
He had this cute smile, a hearty laughter and a low toned voice that when he spoke I would get all warm and fuzzy inside. Some people say those things of feeling butterflies fluttering in your stomach are just fairy tales but if they are I lived one.  He wasn’t the typical hot guy every girl is falling over themselves for but there was a charm to him. If you asked me the one thing I liked about him at first, I couldn’t even put a finger to it I just knew I did like him and that was it. And he liked me too, or i thought he did.
While basking in all that, time flew by and despite his shortcomings and they were many, I was more focused on the bigger picture (the future) I envisioned for us.
There were the unreturned phone calls and messages, unfulfilled promises and missed appointments. In case you wonder, how does one ignore all that, too many red flags for one to continue moving and hanging on?

You see, he was a narcissist always turning things around to make me feel like I was the one in wrong for pointing out his mistakes. This would be followed by a kazillion sorries, it wouldn’t happen again bla  bla bla. Things would be different on wards, happy and mellow, I liked to hear that. This entire time my inner little heart of hearts was screaming out loud for me to run for the hills but I somehow muzzled it. Poor little thing. And you can guess what happened, things didn’t get better. It went down south and however much I tried to hang out to the seemingly thin rope I knew it would break any second.

 

It was like I was willing to sacrifice everything for just a moment of happiness. My life had been reduced to that. Can you imagine someone having this much power over you. I was into chains and bondages and they were digging through my skin. You know even my friends told me to leave, but when you want something to happen so badly, you will think they don’t get it. So you go back for more.

 

It’s in that period of time that I experienced emotions I didn’t even realize I was capable of. The highs were high and the lows were lowest, bottom pit lowest.

I had heard of heart breaks but I always thought it as words being used loosely but here I was. With my heart in my hands, shredded to pieces. It was painful, really painful.  The heart hurts and it’s that kind of pain that is piercing yet you can’t touch to soothe it. It’s pretty hidden.

I would wonder every so often the essence of being with someone if three quarters of the time you are unhappy. Like get the hell out of there.

 

But then I know now, that however much people tell you to leave if you as a person aren’t ready to let go, to make that personal decision to free yourself then it would never be really over. Just like the song, I needed treatment and I needed fast.

 

So I got to my intellects eventually and moved away, gave us a distance. It wasn’t the easiest thing. In a small town where you know you can easily bump into anybody anywhere it was hard. I always had this nagging feeling at the back of my head wondering what I would do or how I would react if I met him. Throw rocks at him, slap the hell out of his smug face or kill him and ensure the body is never found. Well I am only kidding about the latter but I thought about the other two.

 

This entire time I also struggled within my heart of hearts to forgive him because I knew that was the only way I would be entirely free of him. I wanted myself back but there was that obstacle that cast big doubts and poked holes into my life. I knew I wanted it to stop but I didn’t know how.

 

But it’s true, in these cases time is your friend and if you let it, it heals all the wounds, it did mine and throughout this whole experience I learnt so much.

 

To love myself plenty much so that I can see properly where iam going so that I avoid walking into walls and stumbling into pits. When you love yourself ENOUGH, you are able to discern what is and what isn’t good for you because you know better. And above all to let be and let God do his thing.  Now let me go and listen to “treatment some more”

 

                                                                             Story as told to me

This is a story a friend shared with me and she was fine with me penning it down here.

 

 


Tuesday, 10 May 2016

This will get your adrenaline high on.



Posing around on arrival
 If you are an adrenaline junkie, and you love to push your buttons and stretch your limits, this would be "your" place. Tucked away in Luwero, you branch off just after the town round about a few meters away from the main road coming to a small sign post marked "Extreme adventure park Busiika. Its mostly famous for rallies, cars and bikes. " FYI this is not a kalango(advert). I am just saying.

 You know most times, we spend our money on stuff and at the end, you may want it back except you can't or may be you feel like a sense of loss like it was worth it. I have never felt something worthwhile of my money like the experience i had at this place. I can't explain it, its one of those things which has to be experienced first hand.
Ohhh, by the way, this happened a while back, towards the end of last year to be exact.  I will not say much but i will let the pictures tell the story.  In brief, my cousin invited me to go out on an extreme adventure with her workmates, I can't say the adventure bit registered well but curiosity got the best of me. I have heard about Zip-lining, bungee jumping. rock climbing, water rafting, name it... Had never attempted to do any, reasons I don't know actually. You can't tell how you like something until you have tried it.  I will start with an apology, the pics aren't in the chronological order of the different rope challenges but you can pretty much get the hang of things that happen at the place. And ohh, that's me in the dark green top.
View of the poles from the ground

We had just arrived at the venue, goofing around
We are briefed by the instructors (You can see his name imprinted at the back of his T-shirt) eased us into what we were about to embark on 


Start of the climb, small ladder that leads to the first pole


























Resting in between poles before the next tasking move on a cobweb(weaved in btn poles)

This was the last stage of the all the challenges (the swing), only one of us got to finish out of a group of about 15, she got a certificate. I can bet only a handful have them.




We let our hair down (Literally) after getting down the poles

This is the thing (for lack of a proper name, that you use to get off the zip-line.(Posing with the two instructors for the day, very handy if you ask me.)

Monday, 9 May 2016

Mwizi tales

It had rained for an hour or so leaving the ground soaked that when you stepped on the grass, it would bring back the balance inform of mud wrapping itself around your shoes. This is the kind of place that has rich red soils that get very sticky with a rain encounter. That was the state of the roads as we departed from Mwizi about 32Kms from 
Mbarara town.

                  (Mwizi marked with the red spot)




You see Mwizi is one of those places blessed with so many contours inform of hills, high and low, steep and shallow. It’s the kind of place where you can see your destination so close but yet so far literally. In my head, it would all be easier to go over the hill and right on to the next one, but that’s not how they navigate hills. It’s a game of going around and around the hill in circles hence the long distance.
I recall one my friends telling a joke as we travelled of how they had been to the place close to where we had been and, on asking the locals how far long they were from their destination, they were told it was just around the corner. Except the corner turned to be 5 more Kms and I just couldn’t understand that.

The rain had been so sudden, no one saw it coming. One minute the sun was scorching and in the next was the mighty rain.
The roads once smooth and even now turned into cakes of mud.  Bundled up in a small Car (premio) to be exact, the journey from Mwizi to Mbarara started. Now grab a seat because it’s a long tale.
We began the climb, this was a shallow hill, we drive a few meters and then stop because there was an Ipsum car stuck in the middle of the road ahead of us, and we were blocked. Some of the gentlemen jumped out of the car to go assess the situation. It wasn’t good. There were 20 or more people trying to push it and stabilize it on the road so it could move without any luck. Now we created a jam, with cars behind us wondering why we weren’t moving.

While there like sitting ducks, unsure how long it would take us to leave that place, some huge car (Benz) comes from behind and swoops by us like the road was smooth tarmac. We were left just looking on as the car disappeared from the top of the hill. The power of big cars. Then one of my colleagues made a remark that threw everyone in fits. “What a show off”.. I mean you couldn’t blame the guy but it just reminded us of our tricky situation and how our car wouldn’t pull off the move. After what seemed like a long time, I will call them “car pushers” managed to get the Ipsum out of the way onto the side so we could pass.

I thought, the Ipsum guy was just driving badly and we would just drive off easily. Joke was on us.  We had the road clear to move, but all we were doing was a dance on the road stuck in one position meanwhile. This went on for a while and then the “car pushers” lent their hands but it wasn’t moving much. All the gents got out of the car to go help out leaving the three ladies to support the car on the road. Compared to what was going on outside the car, I couldn’t complain… I remember someone digging some holes in the road to give the car stability on the road, it worked a little, we moved mouth to the nose distance and then the car dance started again. And then came the “car pushers” instructions to the driver, everyone was telling the guy how to navigate the car off the spot it was stuck in, it was too distracting. You could think they were the most senior drivers to exist on the earth, well to give them a little credit, may be because it was their road, they knew it better but it was also possible that some of them had even never stepped behind a car wheel.

Anyways, after what seemed like for forever we got off the spot, everyone got back into the car and you could see the relief in everyone’s eyes. Like phewks we are finally out of here, Mbarara here we come.
It was lovely to finally be driving on an okey road, we had good banter in the car, cracking jokes, I mean we were going home and that was good enough. To be honest, I couldn’t quite recall the particular road that had brought us because there were too many turns, junctions I couldn’t have kept track if I tried to. The rest of the people in the car knew the way so I didn’t have to worry about a thing.

So we reach a junction and find this guy waving his finger around, tells us to take another road as the one we had used before was quite a mess. “You don’t want go there” he said. The driver tries to ask some questions but the “self-appointed” traffic controller wasn’t hearing any of it. The guy took offence that they would question his instructions, we couldn’t believe it. As if saying do you people know these roads better that I do, you just came by today.
But of course we were glad for the pointer, anything to help us avoid getting stuck on the road again. 

We move on what seemed like an okey road and then we reached somewhere and the driver stopped. We didn’t know what was going on but looking ahead, we could see cars stuck on the road. And I was thinking, not again. Not that my wish could have reversed the situation, we jump out of the car to take in our surroundings as we ponder our next move. 

The slippery slope

Yeah, we were on top a hill and the road ascended into the valley. If you forget what a head was for a second, the scene was so breathtaking.  Since it had just rained the vegetation never looked so green, it was beautiful.  Looking just below, the valley was so steep, going far down, it seemed to go on for forever. Meantime we are wondering should we turn back and go use the other road or just wait in line as each car ahead of us moves at snails speed to get off the bad spot which no driver could maneuver easily.

So it’s decided we have come so far to turn back, so I was praying and I guess so was everyone that we survive the slope and get off the bad spot unscathed. The driver drove down slowly and we could see the car ahead doing a dance on the mud. It was so scary not forgetting that if the car went off the road even a little, we would end up in a valley so far down and dead... These were definitely not comforting thoughts but I couldn’t help it. This is the time when you think of everything that could go wrong, not that I didn’t have faith in God to get past this but my head wondered so far.
But luckily for us, the driver (bless him) crafted his way off “thee spot”, we could breathe again. We however had to get out of the car, so it could move light on the slope. Down the slope there was a costa (Half bus) that had gone off the road leaning one side, closing off half the road. Whichever car came had to squeeze itself on the remaining half off the road.  We crossed our fingers and the driver passed alright. It was moment of joy getting back in the car. Now we are thinking this is it, next stop Mbarara town.

The mood in the car is pretty chill and calm, we are laughing again nothing else could go wrong, like what hadn’t we been through already. We are going steady, taking in our surroundings as we go, there are very big banana plantations, and they seem to go on for forever. The houses are very scattered, there is like 2-3 kms from one house to another. And we are wondering how does one family get to till all this big chunk of land, because on top of the bananas, there were coffee plantations, cassava, potatoes, they grew everything. I admired their hard work and having to keep with all that.

By the way I forgot to tell you, you recall the Ipsum that was pushed out of the way so we could pass, the driver didn’t take it so well. He was trailing us like it was a driving competition. We reached somewhere, seemed like a bottom of a hill, plantation on one side, a bush on the other. There is a car stuck right ahead of us, so we stop, the guys go to check out what’s happening. Now this infuriates the Ipsum driver, he is hurling insults, saying how anybody can fail to drive on that road. If he could, I bet he would have jumped over and drove off.  And yes, that’s impossible plus, this road could only have one car at a time, there is no way he would have squeezed and passed. Despite his sour mood, he had to wait behind us. Bet it killed him to sit and wait.

The car that was stuck moved eventually, I didn’t ask what had been wrong with it. The sun was going down, it was getting late and we didn’t know how far more we had to move to get to the main road (Mbarara Kabale high way). Consolation was, if the road was fine, we would get there in not so long.  After driving for some Kms we reached another junction and the road which we were supposed to take (could have taken us to the main road fast) was even messier. That was the story, the evidence though was with the cars that had attempted to use it but had returned. This wasn’t good news.
An old man passes by and the driver inquires from him if he knew another way that we could use. He was nice, in his own words says “ yes you could go straight through this other road, it’s definitely much better except one spot and when you pass that,  the rest should be okey but it will take you more time to reach Mbarara and it goes through a forest,”. It’s not like we had many options.

We got onto the road, it seemed to be made up of rocks and in tow with the Ipsum set off into journey that awaited us. I mean it felt different but we had been through enough, what could be worse.  At some point we seemed to be climbing and the road was getting rockier. The car got stuck. The driver tried his best but the car just wouldn’t move. So we got out of the car, the ipsum that was tailing us managed to go over the rocks and went ahead of us but got stuck just in front of us. Its passengers go out mostly women and few men and tried to push the car. It wasn’t bugging.  Among the pushers was this woman who was pushing the car while staying rooted in one spot.  If you are pushing something you are supposed to move it.  So the car would move a bit and then her hands would remain suspended in air, this was a bit funny to watch. After sometime of long pushing and failing, the guys went to add their weight to the push and it worked.

They got off the bad spot and surprisingly came to help us. We were shocked because they had been on quest to get ahead of us. The Ipsum driver comes and tells our driver, to get out and he helps. As if saying I passed this spot so obviously I know how to do this better. We turned and looked at each other. It was weird getting help from him but anyways it worked. We got moving again.

It was a bit of a rough terrain as we took on the hilly road but after a while we reached what seemed like the top because we could see our surroundings properly, the valleys and yes the forest. You know, all along as we moved I was anticipating reaching the “Supposed” forest. It’s not every day that you see a natural forest and my excitement was at its peak. You can tell the difference between a man-made and natural forest by the thickness and under growth. You can’t see through unlike the latter. This was it. The last natural forest I ever saw was Immaramagambo forest way back in 2005 while on a geography trip in High school. That had been a while

Enter the forest
So we were now moving on the sides of the hill, with a view of a forest on one side that went into a valley and what seemed like an endless hill on the other side. We went down a slope, went over a stream of water and over us the converging trees. It seemed darker; I don’t know if it was due to the fact that much light doesn’t pass through the trees to reach down or because it was getting late. It was coming to 7pm at the time. Do you know the feeling you get when you are excited but also scared at the same time, that’s how I felt and so did the rest of the people in the car I think.

At this time so much was running through my head, God forbid anything happened to the vehicle, the thoughts of what would happen to us in what seemed like in the middle of nowhere were unbearable. It was a lonely road and we were the only vehicle on it, our travelling partners (Ipsum) were ahead of us, mind you we didn’t meet any people anywhere as we came.

To sort of lighten the mood, we begin talking about the animals which could be in that forest, ranging from monkeys(less scary), anacondas (creepy this one) or even lions. Not that it was comforting but we laughed over it.  It was one of those places where somehow you begin to think of the horror movies you have watched; the setting was kind of the sort. I recalled the wrong turn horror movies and how things could get messy and fast. One of my colleagues says “you people shouldn’t even joke about those things.” But somehow we got through the forest started going up a hill again, there were still trees on either side of the road but pine trees. So tall but we could see through them.

The long hike 

See the car (Ipsum) lodged at the bottom of the hill

 
And then the great trek began (Martyrs on a mission-getting to the top of the hill)

As we went up the hill, we could see the Ipsum lodged somewhere on the road, its passengers were out. It had got stuck again. Gauging from how steep and rough the road was we too knew there was no way we would pass easily. We got out of the car and pushed it for some distance, the driver then drove ahead so we could find him at the top of the hill. We also helped push the Ipsum and it drove off.   So we started the long hike. We had no way to estimate the distance between where we were and where the car had packed, on top of the hill.  We were quite a big number, looked like pilgrims going to Namugongo.

We walked, stopped to regain some energy and walked some more. It was a big test for “Us” the unfit people because it was so exhausting you would think we had climbed Mt.Rwenzori. But looking on the bright side, the walk was good for us because we managed to take in our surroundings. It was quite a scenery, through the pine trees we could see other hills, scattered houses in a distance. It was one of those moments when you appreciate God’s creation. 

Sorry the pics aren't so clear but if you see closely through the pine trees, there is a view of the hills far and wide




Can you see the tired smiles though, our car was finally in view (Lol)



After walking on for what seemed like forever, we got to the car, and sitting in was quite a huge relief.  From then on we moved on smoothly, there was a trading center at the bottom of the hill where the Ipsum stopped, they had reached home, lucky them. 

They waved us off goodbye. From there it took us about 30—40 minutes to reach Mbarara town. We had made it but we had had an adventure.  Not that we had reached our homes but the hardest part of the journey was done. The Mbarara to Kampala journey couldn’t come close Mwizi escapades. We just prayed for journey mercies.

Mwizi is one of those places that are captivating and beautiful for those who love sight-seeing and hiking. This is thee place to visit. I would just advise that you wear comfortable walking shoes and clothes.

In case you are wondering how I ended up in Mwizi, I had gone for a burial of a dear friend’s dad who had been called by the Lord. A great man he was, left a big a legacy and a beautiful closely knit family to remember him by.  May he rest in peace.

Wednesday, 16 March 2016

My maiden visit to the state house


When I say state house I don’t refer to Entebbe where the Ugandan (My) president sits but the house where one of the ex-presidents of Rwanda lived, the late Jevenal Habyarimana.  Yeah, I know how that sounds, the state house I got to visit is one of a president long dead, but I will settle with this for now.
He was the president of Rwanda whose plane was shot down in April 1994, the event that sparked the Genocide. The place is located in Kanombe a few kilometers from the airport.
You can see the signpost hung up so high as you approach the premises marked“ presidential palace museum”, that got me wondering why the heavy title but I was yet to learn all about that once I entered into that vast compound and learnt of the history that came with it.
In tow with my friend Sandra (Bless you) who was also doubling as a tour guide, we jumped out of the cab hurriedly through the main gate, took a few more steps that led to another smaller gate and onto a pavement. Like a couple of lost puppies we looked around, there were many trees big and small, some structures of different designs scattered around the premises that didn’t seem of much importance.
Coming through the gate with us were people mostly old, donning party outfits, this seemed weird. I wondered if that was the supposed dress code for visiting that museum, it being presidential and all.
We were in casual attires, clad in jeans and the like; I said a silent prayer asking God that they shouldn’t chase us. But we later learnt from our tour guide that the dressed up lot were going for a wedding.
With everyone going about their business, we didn’t know whom to inquire from except back tracking our footsteps to see if the askari at the gate would give us some pointers.  Then we saw what we had missed, a reception. We went there and the people were very warm and welcoming except what they had to tell us wasn’t warm. We were told that we had come a little late and the museum was about to close hence we wouldn’t be given a tour unless we came earlier the next day.
My heart sunk when I heard that, not after all the rush we had been in to visit the palace.  Sandra who knew a bit of the history of the place so my anticipation had been building up. I couldn’t bear being turned away having come so far. I am from Uganda for crying out that loud…tourist hellooo..lol. We pleaded with all the begging faces we could master and eventually they agreed to give us a tour around the place.
Our tour guide a handsome young fellow, with a rare name (said it was Italian) it didn’t stick in my head. We were bursting with questions as we strolled through the gate onto the pavement that had ushered us in earlier into the vast compound, plastered with foliage, you would think all the rain in Kigali fell into that compound.  


                                   
The presidential palace museum (pic from online)





Genocide memorial center
To take you a little back, on why we came running late to the Museum, we had earlier been to the Rwanda Genocide memorial Centre in Gisozi located in the outskirts of Kigali town. They say you can’t claim to have visited Rwanda if you have not visited that place.  So here we were, on top of a hill as most structures in Rwanda are. I had never seen so many hills in one place, well except Kabale until I crossed over Katuna into Rwanda. Sandra had warned me not to laugh, not that I was planning to, I mean it’s a place that tells the tale of horrible deaths. But  her knowing me so well, I can be overly jolly sometimes and incase that crept out in this place where even a hint of  laughter could be taken as an offence I needed to stifle it.  As we sloped down the stairs, you could already feel the somber mood around the place. There are garden benches where a few people are seated, we find our way to the entrance.
Here we were met by a gentle man, who very enthusiastically told us a brief history of the center, what it was all about, what to expect and which doors to use.  He also handed us some device that looked like a calculator, except it wasn’t. We were told for each number you pressed, you would be given a narrative of what transpired at a certain stage of the genocide as displayed by the images in the center.
We then took to some stairs, going down as if to a dimly lit basement, this led us to corridor with well carpeted floors with fluffy rugs. On the walls hung the pictures starting right from how the genocide was hatched. With the images on the wall are also writings describing each scene as illustrated in the photographs in Kinyarwanda, French and then English. The images are clear as day, very high resolution, creating fresh images in the head as if you were there in person. Now I understood the reason for the dim lighting.
The first images show how the genocide was birthed, starting with the colonialists who used the divide and rule method by pitying tribes against each other. Rwanda being a small nation had only three tribes, mainly the Tsusi’s Hutu’s and the Batwa. This made it easy for them to create the divide.
The subsequent images show how the situation quickly escalated, hate messages and propaganda spread using the media and the entire nation thrown into frenzy. They go on to illustrate how the genocide was orchestrated, with friends turning into foes and killing each other, neighbours turning on each other and families disintegrated. At the end of each stage there is also a TV with a touch screen which you would play and it would show the motion images coupled with tales of survivors narrating their ordeals.
At some point my throat ran dry from watching and seeing the harrowing images, and to think that while we were having a happy childhood our neighbours across never had a sense of normality.
At the end of the long winding corridor are other rooms, on one side there are a bazillion pictures of the genocide victims hanging on the walls. On the other side below is a glass box, in it we could see skulls both big and small alongside weapons that were used to hack people to death.
Mainly machetes, clubs, hammers, sticks, knives among other items. At this moment Sandra tells me that the Rwandese don’t use machetes in their homes as a house hold tool, like we do here in Uganda because it was the deadliest weapon in the genocide.
Apparently at the time of the genocide, Rwanda had roughly a population of 7 million and by the time the genocide ended, there were only 5 million people left. Those who could fled to the neighbouring countries like the DRC, Uganda and Tanzania not Burundi since it wasn’t any better stability wise. They were going through the same turmoil.
There is also another room where some of the tattered blood stained clothes and belongings of the genocide victims are strung on hooks and erect so you can see them through the glass mirrors. It’s in this room that the largest TV set is, there is also a cushioned bench where you can sit and watch properly. We found a lady in the room watching the video and joined her. Showing on the TV were survivors who had the misfortune of watching their loved ones battered and killed in front of them. It was so gut-wrenching, watching grown men and women with tears streaming down their eyes while trying to make themselves strong at the same time. Some remorseful about why they survived while their loved ones didn’t make it, having to forgive the perpetrators some of whom still live among them, and having to start life a fresh and forge ahead amidst all the adversity they experienced. 
Two-three hours later were eventually done with the tour of the memorial center after checking out the mass graves just below the building. By this time I was beat but also with a new perspective to life and much sense of respect to the Rwandese people. As I said a silent prayer for the souls of the unfortunate genocide victims, I was also very grateful for my life and the peace we have had in Uganda for so many years now.
I was also famished by this time, Sandra had showed me the Rwandese National Library while on our way to the Genocide memorial telling me that it had an amazing eating spot and great food.
We quickly jumped onto some bikes (also called Motors in Rwanda), the boda guy (So Ugandan of me) handed me a helmet and in my head I was like this is a new one. We don’t wear helmets on bodas in Uganda but as we rode back to town, I noticed that every bike passenger was wearing one. I was in awe.
We stopped at the gate of a very magnificent building, very ultra-modern, we went around the back to some stairs that would lead us to the cafĂ© on top. By the time we reached the top I was panting and trying to catch my breath…reminded me how unfit I am.  Luckily there was a very cool breeze and the atmosphere was fresh.  From there we could see atop of the other hills, I could bet I saw half of Rwanda from that spot, the fine structures from a distance and the greenery all around. It was beautiful scenery.
The customer care was on point with the waiters and waitresses coming every few minutes to ask if the food was okey and if we were enjoying it. Duhhh, it was more than okey, the chicken sandwiches were sumptuous, I could swear I died and went to food heaven..lol. 


The delicious meal

Here we spent an hour or two eating and lazing around and enjoying the ambiance, you know the feeling you get after having a heavy meal, I could have sat at that place for forever.
And then snap, we remembered we had somewhere else to be, the cab driver came quick luckily and we were on our way,……. and that my friend is how we ended up on our knees begging to tour the presidential palace museum with a few minutes to its closure.


The properly manicured compound(pic from online) 

Fast forward now to the pavement with our handsome tour guide; on one our left stood a mansion so big, it befit being called a palace. Our tour guide tells us it would be the last place we would see since there was plenty to see while in there.  Leaving the mansion behind, we took a left turn, a few steps ahead, we came to face with a much smaller house, what we would call a “boys-quarter” painted in white and maroon.
This is we were told was the first house president Habyarimana lived in as he waited for his main house to be finished. Apparently as the head of the military way back before he became president of Rwanda, Habyarimana lived in that smaller house but even after he became president refused to go live at the state house in Kigali and waited for his own house to get finished out of fear that he would be jinxed. Just below the house is a big tree without grown out roots and just beside it lies a small dried out pool. This we are told was where he kept his snake to ward off evil spirits, apparently Habyarimana believed in witchcraft.  Further ahead on, there is a fence but we also knew that a plane crash that killed him happened in his compound.
My friend asked about that and we were showed some small metallic stairs that went over the wall, on top of the stairs we saw the remains of the wreckage of the plane. It was so surreal, like watching a live movie, also in the compound were crested cranes grazing around like chicken.
Here in Uganda, the crested crane is not only a much respected bird being on our national coat of arms, it’s also a wild bird. When we asked about it, we were told some people keep them in their homes as caged birds but also to chase away snakes. The tour guide told us that in some cases, the crested cranes are rescued and brought to that place, where they are treated and rehabilitated to live in that compound.
We went back to the main house; this was the most looked forward to tour place of that evening. We were told to leave our shoes by the door and keep our phones in silence. No pictures while inside the house. On entering the house, the feet sink into the furriest carpet like it was put yesterday, there is a set of metallic chairs attached together, we are told are where visitors waited for him.
Then we are ushered into a ginormous living room, with clean cream painted walls, on one side hangs the portrait of Habyarimana and the president who preceded him, the only piece of furniture in the room a big wooden table in the middle of the room. Adjacent to it is the kids sitting room area and opposite the living room is a vast dining table with the finest furniture, well arranged like a family dinner is about to commence.
After the kids sitting area, is an exit door that leads to the boys-quarters, storage rooms and some of Habyarimana’s kids bedrooms. After peeping out there, we come back and enter the kitchen whose door faced the children’s sitting room, in here looks vacant except for the kitchen cabinets, sinks and the biggest fridge I had ever seen except in showrooms. Quickly through the kitchen we come to face with the dining room and then stairs leading to the next floor where the main bedrooms were.
So the tour guide tells us something peculiar about those stairs. Each one of those stairs about 8 or more had a unique switch and every time Habyarimana would go up to his bedroom and ensure that all his kids are in their rooms, he would remotely put the switches on. Apparently, he was a very paranoid man that he wanted to control everything around him because he couldn’t trust anybody. So if anybody attempted to go up the stairs afterwards, he would be alerted because with every step came a different sound. That was very astonishing, I was very intrigued by what else we were about to see up the stairs.
So we made it to his bedroom floor without triggering any alarms, they have long been disabled we were told.  In the spacious bedroom, lies a big empty bed, no mattress but it still looked presidential in my eyes. Just beside it was a coffee table laminated with elephant skin with a glass covering and it stood on two huge elephant feet. I was like now this is more like it; we are in the president’s bedroom…Dang. Only in there would we have found such. There was a door that opened out to a big balcony that apparently went around the entire house. We didn’t have time to move around it.
The secret escape route
Coming back inside we went to his master bathroom which also housed his wardrobe. But just before you get to the wardrobes, there are open safety deposit cabinets all open. I thought that was odd.  Like any other normal bathroom there is a bathtub the size to fit more than two people and then a toilet right across it.  A shiny sink a few steps the toilet. Right from in front from the open safe cabinets you can see another door leading to an even smaller bathroom. So my head tells me this is how presidents live, have bathrooms that are two in one. So the story with the open safe cabinets is that they were always filled with money, so that incase thieves or anyone broke into the house and into the bathroom, they would be distracted by all the money while he (Habyarimana) escaped through the tiny bathroom. Gosh by this time my head was about to explode with all the information that was piling in my head, I felt like I had time travelled into some history book as each and every story unfolded. It was surprise after another, that man was one of a kind.
We retraced our footsteps back to the presidential bedroom through the door we entered, here we checked out the other bedrooms where his kids slept, very well furnished and then a TV room where the children watched movies while he hosted visitors downstairs.
The secret staircase
From the doorway all we could see was the big wooden cabinet where the TV previously sat but wasn’t anymore. Our tour guide flipped one of the cabinet doors and it opened up to a stair way going up. On turning to us to invite us in, I had my hand on my mouth wondering what other mysteries existed in the house. Just when I thought I knew better, there was more to come. We then found our way up the stairs trailing behind the tour guide. At this point in time I didn’t want to lead the way in case of anything I wasn’t prepared for. As we approached the top of the staircase we came to face with ahead of a wild animal that looked like an antelope but had weird horns a present given to Habyarimana by the Belgians. After that we came face to face with several presents of the same sort and some fine art pieces. This was where the president kept his stash or call it his most prized presents.
By this time, I was losing track of all I had seen, it was a lot but there was more to see. As we entered further into the room, we saw another door which led to another room of a different design. It had a triangular shape inside. By now we were firing away with questions at the tour guide. He told us that was Habyarimana’s shrine where he met occasionally with his witchdoctor. Then I knew, it was different for a reason. We left that place quickly, I was also developing some sort of paranoia. There was another huge room we were told was also another meeting area, this must have been for highly classified meetings considering the location. There was another closed door which for a minute I thought we wouldn’t be allowed to enter. The tour guide moved to it and flung it open and we entered. This room had a different air to it and we learnt a few seconds why. It was Habyarimana’s chapel. Here the priest would come and lead him in prayers. The irony of that whole floor was that while there was a shrine on one end, there was a chapel on the other. This guy was truly an interesting fellow, having it both ways. When we left the chapel, we also saw some tiny room smaller than the rest of the rooms. It had two small chairs and a table in between them. Just like in the movies, you can guess what this was…..an interrogation room. From this room, there was a door that led to the outside, didn’t ask where it led but we later learnt its purpose. I can’t say I have the entire map of the house imprinted on my head right to do the description justice, because it was one big house and I lost count of the rooms I moved through. But one thing I admired most was design and the beautiful features of house, I am no architect but that was some master piece we saw.  It was the first state house I have been to, I couldn’t help but wonder what others are like. I thought to myself, you could do this always Brenda…tour state houses…lol. It was all too fascinating.
The outside features
We came back right outside, honestly I thought we had seen it all, like what more could we see.  By this time the sun had since gone down, it was getting late.  The tour guide took us around the back of the house, we went down to a ditch like place. It was cemented though, right on the corner of the house was a door, we peeked through, this we were told was the president’s steam bath and sauna room. The next door, was a store and the next what was called the entertainment room.  It was like a mini dancing club, seats on either side of the wall, a bar on one end, and washrooms on the other and free space in the middle. This is where birthday Parties were thrown, New Year’s celebrations done among other celebrations. To one end of the bar area were stairs, these we learnt led to up to the interrogation room. So that secret door led somewhere after all. 
The whole tour experience of the famous presidential palace blew my mind away....wa
This is one place I would recommend to everyone who loves a bit of history and mystery to check out once they visit Rwanda.
And now the less serious stuff
After the day I had had, I needed to let off some steam, let my hair loose and do something that didn’t involve having to use the brain to process any more information. We grabbed bikes just few meters after the Museum, our next destination was UTC. It was a bit of a distance away, we went up and down the hills taking in the fresh oxygen as breathed out by the trees as we moved. Gosh I have never seen so much vegetation in the city like I saw in Kigali town.  Did I tell you how comfortable their bikes are, it was one joy ride and if you forget the speeding (that I learnt is synonymous with boda’s everywhere) breathe in and out slowly you might forget your destination.
I took in all the sights as we moved until we reached UTC. This building houses MTN offices Kigali, a supermarket, boutiques and shops, saloons and some cool hangout places. After grabbing a few drinks we headed on down and back to the Motors. We were in a rush to go catch a 7 o’clock movie.  The cinema is in Kigali Tower, this structure also the tallest building in town is at the heart of the city. By this time it was dark, the city was swarmed with people as some people went about their businesses. There wasn’t much I could see then but after the day I had had, it was more than enough sightseeing for a day. 
We watched Zoolander2 which lasted like an hour and some minutes. We went window shopping for a few minutes afterwards. Honestly, by this time my feet hurt like crazy from wearing shoes that were clearly not meant for all the walking and standing I did that day. Lesson learnt the hard way, I will know to wear better walking shoes next time.



From the top pic, i(in a striped sweater) and Sandra at Kigali Tower.

When we entered the cab that was taking us home, I was just so glad to put my butt down, couldn’t wait to get some rest. By the time we got home I was like cabbage, spent and wasted. I needed a bed.  One word to describe my trip and rendezvous…amazing.  As you share my memories, you can have yours to, but only if you have a superstar of a tour guide like I had, who knows all the coolest and bestest places to check out..Sandra you are a star. Till next time…..xoxo